Summer Fun, Joy, and Happiness

Someone recently asked me what my plans were for the summer. I came to the conclusion that I don’t know the specifics of what I want to do, but whatever I do, I just want to have fun.

“Arranging for and allowing ourselves to have fun is an important part of taking care of ourselves. It helps us stay healthy. It helps us work better. It balances life. We deserve to have fun. Fun is a normal part of being alive. Fun is taking time to celebrate being alive.” -Melody Beattie

In spite of my challenges and the anxiety I’m going through right now, I want to have fun and play. Now fun looks differently for everyone. I’m a bit of a nerd, so reading a non-scholarly type book can be fun for me. Listening to classical music in the park. Going to a rock concert at the House of Blues (I already did that), which totally confused my mom because she asked me, “Did you go to a rock concert or a blues concert?” haha Visiting the Farmer’s Market. Volunteering with kids. Going to the zoo. Going to a movie. Getting my hair cut (did that already too). I want to do something different, take a risk, and above all, Love, Love, Love.

But I also want to smile until my face hurts, laugh out loud…really loud, without anyone telling me to shhhhh.

I want to do things that I really enjoy with people I enjoy spending time with, including myself. The more I am simply liking myself, the more I don’t mind spending time with myself. It used to bother me when I did things alone, but I did it anyway. Now, I seek people out to do things with as well as do things alone. And each way is okay.

I may not get a chance to do all these things this summer, but regardless, I want to create an overarching cloud of joy that surrounds me wherever I go.

I have been so serious for so long, it is time for my inner child to be encouraged to come out and play.

The “joy” aspect of my childhood was often denied as I began an enmeshment with my mom and I took on too many grown up worries too soon. Although this gave me an early sense of responsibility, it also gave me a sense that life was all about responsibilities, work, and achievement. I thought happiness was achieved only after reaching a certain level in life. I don’t regret my educational accomplishments, because I believe they are a part of who I am. But I often joke with my friends that when I was in high school, I couldn’t wait to get that over with so that I could get to college and be happy. When I was in college, I couldn’t wait to get that over so that I could get a job and be happy. When I got my first job, I couldn’t wait to get my Masters Degree and be happy. Now that I’m working on a Doctorate, I better hurry up and get happy. Because unless I get another doctorate (which for those who know me is not a complete stretch of the imagination because I’m a nerd and love school), there is nothing “next.” It was this that prompted me to get on the happiness bandwagon now instead of later. But I actually prefer the word “joy,” which I will discuss in a later post.

Because of this dedication to the “next” achievement, joy, happiness, and fun as deliberate actions in my own life and creating those things for myself was unheard of.

So whether you refer to it as happiness, fun, joy, or laughter, the things that put a smile on our face will be the topic for this month.


  • Beattie, Melody (2009-06-10). Codependent No More (p. 217). BookMobile. Kindle Edition.

10 thoughts on “Summer Fun, Joy, and Happiness

  1. Hopefully my blog can make you smile or laugh once or twice this month and I won’t tell you to shhh :0) but I might feel bad if I made your face hurt. I like your list. I feel like my summer list will be taking the kids to cheer practice daily. I’m hoping I find more pleasure in it than that! Ha ha.

  2. I think your summer plans sound fantastic! Even if you just do a couple of the things you listed and enjoy those you are doing well by yourself! I’m like you, no plans yet but I’m certain I’ll be spending time in my husbands parents pool making big splashes!!🙂

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  4. I really enjoyed reading your post. Your very essence reminded me of Nathaniel Hawthorne’s quote, “Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you sit down quietly, may alight upon you.” You see…the butterfly you posted and the topic of joy. Cool, huh? I have a 6 1/2 years old son who is my reason to not feel shame when I want to embrace my inner child. We roll down hills, lay in the grass, climb trees, swing, and so much more. I enjoy time alone, too, but also love time shared with a friend who makes me feel like I can be me…the alone time me. I think that is pretty cool. I begun doing Parts Therapy, and I hope to embrace all facets of who I am. I hope you’d read my post. I’m a big Melody Beattie fan. The first experience of Melody Beattie came through my first therapist who gave to me a cassette of Letting Go. I loved it. Here’s to reading more of your posts.

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